2 posts tagged “friendship”
Your horoscope for November 16, 2008
Don't worry about not being on the right path, SHEIMA, because you are.
You seem to be always in the right place at the right time and there is
no need to feel regret or shame about things that have happened in the
past. Turn negative experiences into lessons for a better future. Even
though you may not be able to change a certain situation, you can at
least change your reaction to the situation.
I like this horoscope - particularly for the last sentence - Even
though you may not be able to change a certain situation, you can at
least change your reaction to the situation.
This is something that has come up a lot in discussion with close friends lately. Although it is very difficult to control one's emotions, we can step up to the plate and control our behavior.
Years ago, I would have thought I would just pick up and run away than deal with all the chaos that surrounds me. Surprisingly, I'm still here - battling. Am I fighting the good fight? Or just fighting to survive? That has yet to be determined.
I could easily choose to cry and scream and stomp my feet like that little child inside of me that begs to come out...or I can deal with my head like a young woman. Sometimes this works with the help of a sip of bourbon along with a phone conversation to a larger-than-life friend. Sometimes all it takes is a couple extra hours in bed or an extra-long-extra-hot shower.
Amidst the chaos that never seems to dissipate in my life, something positive has emerged. I have received numerous heartfelt compliments from close friends about how I can be depended upon. My friendship has been highly acknowledged and respected.
Barb
thanks for being in my life. you are one of those "best friends" that i
somehow know is a life long friend. no work required. simply the way it
is. and i'm grateful. VERY grateful. I LOVE OUR TALKS...like the one we
had last night.
~k
I have been told that over the years I have emerged from a once selfish girl that didn't have the capacity to listen to others while only talking about herself to someone that genuinely listens and can empathize while offering good advice. What's even more amazing is that this advice is actually being taken! And it's working!
This week I spent an entire day and night spending time with a friend I thought I had lost. She came to me seeking a safe place to just let it out. No, I didn't feel like I gave a day away - rather, I felt lucky that I was a person chosen to take care of someone else. It is my honor and privilege to take care of the ones I love and hold so close in my heart. I must be growing up. The tables are turning. I was once the person seeking others to take care of me, never feeling comfortable alone. Now others seek me out to find solace...
Appointments were lost, work was abandoned, projects left unfinished....but in the grand scheme of things, it was worthwhile.
Somehow when spending time with me, people have a tendency to let go. Maybe i have the key to Pandora's Box. Maaaaybe I'm somehow channeling the spirit of Jim Morrison. Plentiful drinks are drank, stories of adolescence are told, tears are shed, aching bellies of laughter emerge, redundant questions asked, music echoing and waking up the neighbors, thoughts are sorted through and whatnot....
My life may appear chaotic and torrential to me - but to others, I am a fortress.
Maybe it's time to see myself the way my friends see me.
Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others. 
— Cicero
My very very dear friend Kendra has been telling me how amazing it is to be grateful for all the things you encounter in your day. I took her up on the idea and have found it to be pretty rewarding in itself. How? I can't explain just yet, but I feel deep down that something grand is taking transformation...
